Tuesday, December 18, 2007

Movin on up

We are moving on up the list. The agency has referred another little boy to a couple on the list. They had some paper delays so things have moved slower than they would have liked. He was born June 30th.

The agency states that 7 families have either been referred or have the paperwork on a referral and are waiting to accept. I know of 4 families referred. The agency also states that there have been 10 families matched with children with referrals to follow. This doesn't gives me a good idea of where we are but it's great for the families above us to be moving forward. It means we are moving forward.

The only downfall in this new system is the delays. In a pregnancy, it is easier to know where you are at. The baby grows and comes out after 10 months, with adoption it's difficult to hear that it could be 12-18 months before you see your baby. So even after we get our referral the agency is saying it could takes 3-4 months before we travel. So I'm thinking it pushes my estimation of time back to maybe June before we travel. That is only if we get matched soon. Hopefully 2008 will be our year. Match, referral, travel and baby.

Have a good holiday. We'll keep you posted

Thursday, December 6, 2007

More referrals

I just saw in my adoption group chat room that there has been another referral. A little girl. I was also looking at a blog for a couple who is next on the list for a boy. They have been matched with a little boy. No word on when they will get their referral. The agency has been right so far as saying an equal number of boys and girls are being referred. Everyone keep your fingers crossed that we get a match here soon. Once we do and feel like things will work out we will let everyone know. I don't want to be over zealous and too optimist before things are confirmed and moving along. 3 referrals in 3 months is okay with 11 more matched out there it's moving along, just slowly. With changes bring slow downs. Once the first few families get through these new procedures then things will start to move at a quicker pace. Trying to stay positive it's hard but it officially only been 6 months since our paperwork was accepted by the Vietnam government. The family that got their little boy referral was exactly one year in waiting. The family who got their little girl referral was 18 months in waiting. And that is the timeframe we were told 12-18 months. Funny.

Saturday, December 1, 2007

How much stuff does a baby need

I have started to register for baby items, unfortunately, I can't register for a lot yet. Until we know the gender, age and size of the baby it's too hard to register for clothes and other items. I thought this would be a fun process. It hasn't been. I know I'm over thinking all of it, not a big surprise to certain people.

Chris and I have have been looking at Target and we have made 3 trips to Babies r us to look around. I have changed my mind several times on certain items. This process has not been like when we registered for our wedding. Then it didn't matter, maybe you used it, maybe you didn't. With baby items you have to worry about safety, durability and for me space. These items I'm using with a baby. So I've consulted a book (Baby Bargains) that Tracy loaned me, that Michelle loaned her, Thanks Michelle!! It's a good book but now I'm obsessing over the fine print of the items listed in this book.

First I started my registries on-line (the stores overwhelm me) but I couldn't find some of the things I saw in the store. So this morning I went out to Target (Target in Western Hills too small). Now I'm more confused about what to register for. I know there are some mothers out there that have been through this, is this how it goes for everyone? Some of the things I am confused on are a changing table (expensive), changing pad, mattress and the monitor. Some of the things Chris and I have a difference of opinion on gates, exerciser or bouncer and 2nd car seat.

I feel like I'm done registering at this time. It's too hard to make these choices for a little baby. Chris said it should be fun and everyone else reading this is thinking "She makes things more difficult than the need to be". So I'm going to concentrate on Christmas. Everyone knows I love Christmas!! Ha Ha :).